The Beautiful Showpiece

The advantages of knowing your limitations

2011-11-19T23:30:00.000-08:00

I used to motivate myself a lot when ever I felt blues during my academic life. My self motivation became more intense in my engineering days when I was failing to get firstclass marks every time.
The one favourite motivating thought I had told myself is 'Don't feel any limits'.This line is of my own.I told this line many times to myself in my academic days.I felt a lot better after having thought this.
But when I received an unexpected setback later, I was told by my friends and relatives that every one has limitations and they 'know' it. I was stunned by this fact. Till then I was thinking every one can do what ever they wanted,but they were not doing it because they choose to do/not to do certain things. I was thinking I too had this unlimted potential. But this was not to be! I too had my limitations.But I was not knowing that fact and that cost me lot. Later I began to observe people more closely and I found that their lives are risk-free because they knew their limitations and hence living a life in well defined framework. I really admire their wisdom and knew my mistake which cost me dearly.
So knowing your limitations is the wisest thing to do.If you don't want to be limited by any thing,then spiritual life offers a great deal to learn and live the way.

The sense of senses

2011-10-22T05:16:00.000-07:00

I asked my wife 'do you have literary sense'? She said 'No'. But I know that when it comes to daily life,she is more adept at dealing with difficulties than me. That is because she has an uncanny common sense which I am awefully fall short of.
So no matter whether you have 'sense of humour' or 'literary sense' or 'political sense' or any other 'sense'. Unless you have 'common sense',all these senses become nothing but non'sense'!
So common sense is sense of all senses.

My son's mischiefs

2011-09-14T10:01:00.000-07:00

He saw that at home he cannot play his favourite DVD, the rhymes of children in Telugu. So he wnt to our neighbour, asked her to stop watching TV,gave the DVD and began watching his favourite rhymes in their DVD player. My neighbour's one year old daughter is his companion.

Prayer - time-tested way to help yourself

2011-07-03T04:37:00.000-07:00

Today I read cover story about 'Prayer' in Eenadu adivaram
This telugu language newspaper which is hated by as many as those who like is bought by almost every telugu person.
I admire the sunday cover stories which deal with many issues liked by all but reported by no other magazine.
Today it devoted its cover story to the concept of 'prayer' which is prescribed by every religion in its own format.
I myself tasted the benifits and affects of prayer over mind.
Prayer is such a powerful mechanism to relieve your stress that no other medicine can match it.
Basically it galavanizes your energies into one force and helps you to overcome your worries by giving you the feeling that there is more powerful one('GOD') to take care of your worries. So you can move on with your life without worrying about your problems.
Businsses do it all the time. They get rid of issues plaging them by shrugging of businesses they don't need any more or making out of court settlements to concentrate on their core activity.
So you dump your worries on some one else which we call as GOD and continue with life uninterrupted.
There is no meaning about how you should pray. We pray as per our capabilities,background and personal choices.
If you still didn't get a 'need' to prayer, I would say you have not still seen life yet.
Try prayer. It helps.

The attraction of 'criticism'

2011-05-27T23:24:00.000-07:00

I had this title because I experienced it better.
When I started blogging, I decided that I don't write the run-of-the-mills articles where you criticize society and get mileage out of it. So I started writing all things positive and few personal. But they didn't attract any readership or interest.
So I am surprised how much appreciation I got from my handful of readers of my blog when I started writing articles criticizing society, media and politics.
But aren't we living in this very society? So when I criticize socity ,I am criticizing myself. I make up the society. I am part of it.Not an outsider. So why do we criticize and like critics of society so much? Isn't it a pure middle class attitude where we expect every thing to be done for us and ourselves don't do any thing about a cause?
This disease is prevalent more in youth where they criticize any one and any thing just like that. It is another of showing that they are incapable of doing any thing about it.If you can do some thing,then do it.Don't sit before laptop and write any thing that satisfies your middle class senses.
We need action. Not words.
Jai Hind.

The thing called 'consciousness'

2011-05-27T22:23:00.000-07:00

Are we Indians are fully conscious? Isn't our media putting people to sleep
with incessant reporting of insignificant topics and not highlighting people's plight? I believe people are being drugged mentally with meaningless reality shows and heavy reporting of filmy news and insignificant marriages and even insignificant break-ups. They don't mean any thing to you & me and any other common man. I shudder when I think how media looks down at 'aam aadmi'. He is the voracious consumer of IPL, movies and petty news. If we don't give him the news,he willdump us and goes to another nonsense channel. So let us transmit as much nonsense as possible and earn as much money as we can.
Is common man so dumb? I believe yes. He may be smart in his area of work and for the purpose of survival. But when it comes to larger interests of nation and fellow citizens,he is certainly dumb.So politicians and media knew it so well so that they fully exploit this unconscious state w.r.t nation and play all sorts of games in the name of communalism,secularism, IPL and movies. who will wake up Indians? Certainly not me. Will you?

Is India's middle class rising up to the challenge?

2011-04-10T00:19:00.000-07:00

What a response? Am I dreaming? These are the feelings that came to my mind when I watched Anna Hazare's fast and the stupendous support he got from youth of India.Initially I felt pessimistic that these youth are coming just as following a fad rather than being sincere. But as the days passed and supporters kept on swelling,I realized I was in my dreamworld!
Again it is the incredible internet that powered the movement.It is that discorded Gandhian way that galvanized the Indians again!!Indeed it is second freedom movement.
India's middleclass that so long patronized corruption unwillingly and out of fear finally came out again. Where ever a revolution succeeded in the history, it is the middle class that played as catalyst in its success.
Our recent governments some how unwittingly empowered the middle class and finally it is coming to fruition.
Governments in 70's and 80's successfully suppressed the middle class by showing 'amir log' as essentially exploitative and cruel. Being rich was equal to sin and the ordinary mortal always have to be watchful not to expect wealth.That is why 'angry young man' was the iconic hero in the movies and literature of those times.
But thankfully and albeit forcefully we adopted the free market philosophy and being rich is no more a sin.Infact it became almost a right! So with wealth and middle class values people became conscious of mishappenings around him and it just needed a Gandhian soul like Anna to make them plunge into action.
Let us hope this movement doesn't wither away by tactics of ever cunning politicians and ultra rich businessmen.

Are our news channels as fearless as they portray themselves?

2011-02-24T21:57:00.000-08:00

Everyday I see a lot of 'fearles' and 'unbiased' reporting in news channels,if I believe what they say about themselves.
But somehow I feel uneasy to believe these tall claims.
Are our TV news channels as fearless and unbiased as they portray themselves?
Some how every one might be knowing what the truth is.Atleast Radia tapes proved the 'myth' and 'difficulty' of being 'fearless' in Indian democracy.
Your political bosses eat you for dinner if you are really fearless.
No big business or media house can dare to survive without appeasing their political bosses. Can any one deny this fact? How much I admired Barkha Dutt before she was found to be a mole of Congress in media? The cynicist in me kept me telling that this much fearlessness is unimaginable in India. But some how I believed that a really courageous woman can survive in this cruel world of politics. Because I always believed women refuse to compromise that easily when compared to men. Forgive me if I am gender-biased.But there is no gender inequality here when it comes to gain name and fame.
I kind of smile to myself when the editors make their bold statements about issues facing India.Are they really as 'bold' as they are shown to be.They are only loud.Not bold,But we always assoicate 'loudness' with 'boldness'.That is sad.
I somehow believe the rumours that some of the English news channels implement agenda of Congress and some foreign religions. Christ,Forgive me if I am wrong.
I am not blaming any one. You cannot get even this amount of news if they don't pay obequiscence to our Maharajas in white khadis.So God Forgive them,Forgive me and save India.
Amen.

The Prime minister's voice

2011-02-20T00:40:00.000-08:00

Last week, the Indian Prime minister had a interactive session with prominent editors of Indian news channels and newspapers.
What transpired from this interaction is an onerous sign for Indian democracy.
While the scheduling of this meeting itself is historic given our netas attitue towards facing people on corrution issues,I would dare say that the meeting was to 'offer' the 'excuses' for unrelenting focus on corruption in media.The conscious of honest Prime minister might have pricked him a little for he too being pulled into the muddle created by Corrupt Rajas and Maharajas.
Now our Prime minister says that in a coalition the Governement has to look at the other side when one of the partners commit crime.If they dare to punish them,then country would face election every six months.This puzzles me a little bit.Suppose the Prime minister removes a corrupt coalition partner?As result the partner withdraws support?Then election comes. Who is going to benifit most? And Who is going to lose most?
Is the one who had the courage to punish corruption or the one who destabilized the government to protect corrupt people?
Will not the nation will have more stable and 'less' coaltion governemnt as a result?
What happened when Lalu lost in Bihar? Congress still got larger share of seats.So eventually Congress will benefit as a result of taking on corruption.Why don't they see this advantage? Or the people of India also so corrupt that they defeat the party which takes on corruption?Isn't it amount to insulting the wisdom of voters or common man?
Sir,think about it.You will know the truth.

The new uprising of people around the world

2011-02-11T22:15:00.000-08:00

What a co-incidence?
In my previous artcle only,I talked about people being restless with wide range corruption and misgovernance and now I see people in Egypt rise as one and uprooted their monarch with their peaceful yet powerful protests.
That is what happens right? With media and news every where and news spreading faster than virus, some thing happening in some part of the world is leading people in some other end of the world to get inspired and to take action.
It happened in Tunisia. Jordan and Yemen followed. But what happened in Egypt was the strongest show of unity and solidarity.
But like many pessimists, I also don't know what will happen next?
Will the next ruler offer any honest administration? They say power corrupts. The most idealists lose their dignity when they come to power. So can Egypt hold on to what they have fought for?
Can the government and people fulfill their responsibility to each other? Yes.Just as the government has responsibilty toward people,people also have responsibilty towards their government.
They must pay taxes honestly.
They must follow rules sincerely.
They must not misuse their new found independence.
Why I am referring to them? Are they out of context with happenings in Egypt?No.
India experienced these evils after they got independece from British rule. Black marketeers had a field day when drought struck.
Governments looted people and in turn people disrespected Government laws like tax-paying and giving bribes.
As a result India has an estimated black money woth $500 bn in Swiss accounts.

Let us hope all will be well.

Something negative to discuss about

2010-12-25T03:34:00.000-08:00

I felt my blogs lack kind of appeal that is expected of as it talks about too many positives in life. I,so far skipped talking about negative things in life except for a few personal rantings.The reason is,I felt negative talks breeds negative thinking.
But now I feel,I need to discuss about some negative but important ingredients of social life so that my rantings will offer a balanced view.
What is more negative and depressing to discuss about which also affects our daily lives as well?
Certainly nothing can beat politics in this category.So I decided I would discuss about politics so that we will express our urge to lead a more complete social life which we are entitled to.
With the kind of scams running into thousands of billions of dollars,common man is looking for a platform to express his rage and sorrow about the state of affairs in India as well as world.
But here I faced a dichotomy. There are already too many discussion platforms offered by media(television,print and internet).So will I offer just another platform to express our opinions? Every one has an urge to express and be listened.So I too have one.But I never offered my views in the plethora of discussion boards.The reason this is this-Opinions expression soon turns into a mud-slinging game with readers going into abusive modes when their opinions are disputed or contested.May be my platform also offers such battle field.But i decided it needs to be more constructive and less negative.
So my mode of commentary on contemporary politics will not be passive(not just reporting).But I will look at how to tackle the issues more effectively.If I am correct in my confidence levels,will also offer solutions that may be accepted by common man.(I don't believe in the judgement of our politicians).
So it will be like what?why?how? kind of commentary so that people will know inner mechanism of issues rather than on what is being more publicized.
Caveat: I am not a journalist.I don't have any insiders.My knowledge is gathered from same sources that you have(newspapers,T.V Channels and internet).But my take will be based on past history and correlating it to the present to predict the future.
Please let me know your honest feedback.
Note:The comments are moderated and abusive,bad-tempered language is not welcome.

Thinking about society

2010-12-21T02:26:00.000-08:00

After my tryst with my psychological problem, I didn't think about the society I was living in simply out of the belief that I should first cure myself before thinking about ills of society.Time has gone by. My wounds are healing.I began to think why my improved health is not bringing me any more happiness than am ordinary happiness to an ordinary man.Then out of blue came the thought that a person cannot be happy unless he thinks about how to make his fellow people happy.This is exactly what I was missing. Out of my obsession for a perfect health,I stopped thinking about the ills of society and how it is inflicting the fellow people that I daily see on my way to my office/college/worship. Then I decided, let me have my own problems.But that shouldn't deter me from thinking about my fellow beings. In their happiness,somewhere lies my happiness too.
But what brings happiness to people? Yes,helping others can make you happy.But what kind of help people need? From my experience firsthand,the joy of resolving our problems by ourselves will give supreme confidence and contentment for me.So your duty will be to enable mankind to help themselves.I outsourced some of my problems to my brother because I felt facing them myself would drain my mental strength and resources.True.The problems got resolved efficiently through my brother. But did I get contentment? No.I always felt 'being a dependent' than 'being relieved'. So let the man help himself.You need to have the spiritual and mental strength to remind him of his greatness. You need to make a man aware of his inner strength. That is the REAL help you can do to mankind and in turn to yourself.
In this world,all great works are achieved through inner strength than outer strength.
I don't know how to do it. I will let you know once I find my answers. But let us be aware that our problems are solved best when solved by ourselves.
God bless the world.

The sweetness of old friendship

2010-05-15T05:43:00.000-07:00

Are you feeling low these days?Are you feeling that nothing can make you happy at this moment?
Think again! You have someone who will listen to you.(S)he will make you feel normal and as happy as your previous self.He is your old buddy in your school or college.Try to get into touch with him again and see how your moods will be lifted.
I discovered this truth to my happiness when I was feeling low all time and no one around me is able to give that courage to face life.
I tried every other possible means to lift my spirits. I tried playing snooker,listening to the most soulful music and lots and lots of personality development books and articles.But all these could make me happy only for a while.Their effects will soon die down.I am not able to get along with my colleagues well due to my brooding nature.They are all saying nice words.But I was not feeling any kind of camaraderie towards them.
I began to remember my happy days at school and college and wondering what happened to me that made me to look exactly opposite self.I wished I could go to college and again and enjoy the life again.But I know that going back to college wouldn't yield any thing to my self.Then I thought of calling my old friends and see how they are faring in life.I was most hesitant to call them and even unsure how they would receive me.So I called one of my college buddy on a weekend.(I took his number from emailing him and he was more than happy to share his number!).
When I listed to his voice on the other side of phone line,I was pleasantly shocked for a moment.There is no one who talked with me that much earnestly in the last decade!.I began to talk in my usual self and I was hearing the words that were energizing me as they were being spoken out.I was fearing he would put the phone any moment.But he was talking and kept on talking till I felt I am taking the entire happiness in one call and wanted to preserve it for another call.After that my body language changed.I was talking confident! Then I started calling other old buddies and they were all showing me same warmth and affection.
Now I don't miss calling them and even they would call me on weekends. This made me behave more strongly in life and I started having good rapport with my colleagues in workplace.I improved my productivity after those long ,boring and torturous work-life that I endured so patiently.
So give it a try!It only costs a phone call.

reBlog from tea-and-tea: Health Fitness

2009-12-04T21:00:00.001-08:00

I am trying to show my readers articles about keeping them fit.

I found this fascinating quote today:

Reducing consumption of a protein found in fish and meat could slow the ageing process and increase life expectancy, according to the research. Scientists have long believed that an ultra low calorie diet - aproximately 60 per cent of normal levels - can lead to greater longevity.tea-and-tea, Health Fitness, Dec 2009

You should read the whole article.You will love it.

Keep posting your comments.

A blog about the use of lime

2009-11-07T12:50:00.000-08:00

I found the following article about lime very useful to any of us

http://beauty-healthtips.blogspot.com/2007/09/lime-can-do-wonders.html

Read it and let me know your comments.

reBlog from lightonlife.net: Publishing Your Poetry

2009-11-03T21:04:00.001-08:00

I found this fascinating quote today:

If you are serious about seeing your work published by reputable publishers, there are a few points you should consider. Firstly and most obviously, you need to determine if you have poetry worth publishing. This assessment can be done by doing something that will not only help you gauge the competitiveness of your poetry, but will give you some viable options for publishing it. Subscribe to literary journals and buy books of poetry. If you do this, what you are doing is searching out the market place. Read the types of poetry that many publishers are publishing and see if the quality of these poems surpasses or is on par with the quality of your own poems.lightonlife.net, Publishing Your Poetry, Oct 2009

You should read the whole article.

reBlog from Anden: Let's talk about beauty and health

2009-10-24T11:37:00.001-07:00

I found this fascinating quote today:

1. Brush your teeth once / twice a day prior to sleeping using a medium tooth brush.Anden, Let's talk about beauty and health, May 2009

You should read the whole article.

reBlog from problogger: Community – Principles of Successful Blogging #4

2009-10-24T10:24:00.001-07:00

I found this fascinating quote today:

Today’s principle in our series on successful blogging is all about building community on your blog. Let me share how I discovered that community was possible in the online space with a story:problogger, Community – Principles of Successful Blogging #4, Oct 2009

You should read the whole article.

reBlog from labnol: The Complete Guide to Microsoft Outlook Add-ins and Utilities

2009-10-23T18:52:00.001-07:00

I found this fascinating quote today:

1. Essential Add-Ins for Microsoft Outlook – Whether you want to read PDF attachments inside Outlook or want to make phones calls or need to track email messages, chances are that there already exists an Outlook add-in to help you perform that task effortlessly.labnol, The Complete Guide to Microsoft Outlook Add-ins and Utilities, Oct 2009

You should read the whole article.

I went to a movie

2009-10-18T13:07:00.000-07:00

I feel a childlike joy whenever I think about going to a movie.For me,going to a movie means bringing back the good life,that I fear to be lost.The very preparation to go to a movie brings back the good memories in me.
So on a friday night,I decided to go to movie.I decided to go to an english movie,since I was longing to see a quality film.
I had my dinner quickly in my bachelors hostel,cam out and took an auto rickshaw to go to theatre.You got to see me when I was entering the ticket counter.I took a deep breath,inhaled the movie atmosphere warmly and bought a ticket for myself.The very ambience of a movie theatre fills me with hope for life.There is still happiness left in life!!!
As a bachelor,I always had this strange feeling that I would meet my love in a cinema theatre.I don't know how that thought entered my mind.but whenever I went to a movie,I was feeling a beautiful young lady was glancing her lovely looks upon me.Perhaps that is the magic of the movie itself!
This feeling stayed with me for a very very long time.
Then,it is time for the viewing of the movie.I enter the theatre with those dreamy eyes,still.I search for my seat and settle down.The lights are dim in the theatre.I keep looking at the silver screen with half-closed eyes.I forget about my surroundings.
Then,the lights are off.The movie begins.I am amazed at the visuals and the background score that I am experiencing.I keep wondering about the art behind those moving images.Then,I alternate between amazement of watching a movie and watching with typical movie goer's mind.
I am in another world for that 1.30 hrs.Then comes the 'The End'.I come out of my dreams and walk out of the theatre with wonder in my mind and happiness in my eyes.My mind and body rae so much lighter now.I talk with the auto walah with fresh vigour.Then,I reach home and feel fresh with enjoyment of watching movie.I conclude that watching a movies is no less experience than any spiritual experience.

If I had to, I could go without my cell phone for a month

2009-09-24T21:31:00.001-07:00

I will go to a country side leaving my cellphone back home and spend the days peacefully without any interferences.

The importance of social bonding

2009-09-19T17:04:00.000-07:00

I am the most ineligible person to write about this topic.But since I experienced highest loss about this,I ventured to write this.
To make a man succeed,his social bondings play a crucial role.That is why the proverb 'No man is an island' should be remembered by all men who are facing failures in life.Having good social relations may not solve your problems.But it may give you the courage to deal with failures squarely.
I recently read about a study which reported that persons with good social skills are less likely to have heart atacks and recover from heart attack more quickly.
Once I am out of college,I have fallen into complacency about my social life.I thought my college education alone is enough to make me a worthwhile person.How naive!!!!
By the time I realized the importance of having a good circle,my old friends had new friends and I am out of the good books of so many people that adored me before.
I am in no one's priority books any more.I derive little or no energy from my family without a good social life.
I am here by taking the liberty to take pride in one thing.This is my on finding.No one told me about this.How can any one when I didn't have social life at all!!!It will be a paradox.

Maturity

2009-09-18T21:17:00.001-07:00

I want to dwell upon a topic which is most important to me,if not for everyone.Recently I read one sentence-Age is a too high a cost to pay for maturity.
How true??As I realize that I am seeing things in a different light and feel happy about it,I also realize that I am being older and it is only natural to see things in a differnt light.
I thought about the way I think and reaized a few things about my thoughts.
My thoughts are not matured enough about the most important things in worldly life.
I dont think maturedly about my salary or negotiaion of it.
I don't think maturely enough about my job and don't know how to deal with the unexpected in job.
I don't think maturely about money in general and always lacked of planning no matter what my experiences are.
I don't think maturely about even my life in general.
But as I read somewhere,to be aware of your own condition itself is the solution to your state of mind.

Where is the quality environment in non-IT sectors?

2009-07-22T20:28:00.000-07:00

Did you ask any young man of meritorious background-Where he wanted to work?He is likely to reply that he wants to work in software industry.I feel there is no need to ask for the reason.Good salary(even in these sluggish times),scope for growth and a positive work culture(Forget about coming home midnight,he need not worry about harassment from an inefficient boss).
If you compare the above reasons one by one,we can see why every young man is flocking to IT field.
Even though job guarantee is at stake,the salaries in IT sector are still better than in non-IT fields(I am not talking about business-only salary).The salary to work hours ratio is significantly higher in IT sector.People of same age,same qualifications have noticeable imparities in pay and work environment.I would choose to ignore banking sector where chosen few are making money.
About work culture,I would like to bring to notice about harassment by bosses which is more verbal in some of the fields.The manager in an IT sector is more secure about his job than in other fields.So he doesnot worry about efficient employees who get the work done and earn him the tag of a good manager.This rempoves significant burden from the mind of an employee.He can concentrate on his job.Considering this facor alone I vote for an IT job.I am not a pro-IT guy.But I presented the facts as I hear from many people from many walks of life.A person is more likely to keep his dignity at work in this field.This is the only reason why I chose to migrate to IT.
This analysis(This may be incorrect for some people) brings us to the question what is the future of India if every merit person is flocking to IT.I am looking for an India where an young man chooses his profession for the love of his profession rather than payouts and work environment.I would be the first to jump from IT if I can find this atmosphere.

How do you take care of your show-piece?

2009-05-15T00:30:00.000-07:00

How do you take care of your show-piece?What types of show-pieces you need to have in your drawing room?What do you do when a glass show-piece is broken?I will try to answer these three questions in earnest.

To answer the question how do you take care of your show-piece,we need to answer the question what is a show-piece?A show-piece is a show-piece.That's all.It is for others to see and admire and trying to buy one for themselves.So we need to take care of it well so that the purpose is not lost.The show-pieces have to be dusted well.They need to be cleaned periodically so that the lustre is not lost.It is a few hours of job on a free day.Some show-pieces require certain types of chemicals or cleaning liquids.So apply them if the master-piece demands it.
Keep them away from the reach of children if they are susceptible to breakage or mutialation.Children are he natural admirers of show-pieces in your home.

What types of show-pieces you need to put up?I recomment they must reflect maturity of mind.They indeed reflect the maturity of our mind whether we like it or not.So all the lucky symbols take their pride in our drawing room.Their selection vary from wealthy to middle class-from artists to ordinary people-from real taste to fake tastes.

So show your master-pieces in a way that they deserve.All the best.

The youth are attracted to these technical things

2009-04-25T20:55:00.000-07:00

Today,the youth are attracted towards music players,mobile phones.Those who are doing jobs are having laptops.The youth is also attracted towards social networking sites in internet.They are seeing them as a platoform to express their opinions and likes.

Oh, for three more hours

2009-04-16T21:36:00.001-07:00

I will be bored to death.Meanwhile,I will read a novel in those thrree hours,

The small man in me

2009-04-16T21:23:00.000-07:00

I realized that there is a small man in me.He crept into my self unknown to me.What I mean is there is a small minded fellow in me.He arises whenever I discuss finances with my wife.He arises whenever I could not handle the work assigned to me in my office.Generally I do meditation whenever I feel it.But I realized that after I do my meditation,my self-esteem drops.Can any body answer this?
Please drop your comment.

Listen here, sugar

2009-04-11T18:45:00.001-07:00

generally I can't get my way.Can any body or some body help please...

I dress to impress in my red

2009-04-10T20:05:00.001-07:00

I am Rama from the holy land of India.Want to know me.read my blog and add your comment.

Red tulips Wrangels 30 april

I am wearing a red shirt with flowery design all over.It is matched by baggy shorts.Fun is a serious business!!.I wear a hat on top of it..

Keeping in touch from Santaclara to Hyderabad,India

2009-04-08T16:32:00.001-07:00

By phone.By talking daily about eevry thing,most importantly abt ourselves

I want to relieve myself from debts

2009-04-04T22:01:00.000-07:00

I want to relieve myself from debts.I am badly into debts using every credit card that was offered and every personal loan that came into my way.
I thought of many ways to get rid of debts.I know that my job is not enough to payy off my debts.So I thought of alternate income.Real-estate seems to be a sure way to earn more money.But the initial costs are so high.I cannot afford it.Selling insurance is another bright idea.But in these days of recession-hit times,people are reducing their expenditure.So the only way left is start blogging.Why I am saying this?Because I want to remove the cause of my blogging which became an obstacle to succesful blogging.I wanted to earn through my blogs.But I realized that thinking I would earn through blogging is not allowing me to blog freely.I want to 'free' myself of thinking from earning thorugh blogging.Hence I confess.

The reason for my love

2009-03-31T21:37:00.000-07:00

Why is the sky so blue?
And the earth so green?
Why a flower is refreshing?
And thorns so depressing?
Why the hills are so high?
And corals are at so low?
For the same reasons,I love you.
A reason unknown to man
And known only to God.

How to avoid mental block?

2009-03-22T20:57:00.000-07:00

You should experience it if you want to know what a mantal block really means.The effects of a mental block can be devastating ranging from lose of confidence to losing every thing that made you what you were.
I have experienced it and melting it gradually by following a simple self-made therapy(that might have been the result of reading a lot of self-help books).
1. Get in touch with your old-buddies.-Regaining touch with your old buddies may have been a fantastic way to revive those happy days and re-invent life.They will give you hope and a renewed energy to feel confidence again.
2.Think of moving with the like-minded people-They help you get in touch with your better self.Bringing your positive-self out is the best way to succeed in your life.You may realize that you are far more capable than what you have been made to think by your circumstances.
3.Be in touch with good people-You are as good as your company.Get in touch with good-company.Get in touch with happiness.This is the mantra of life.
Always remember that thinking good thoughts indeed leads to do good things.
All the best.

The design on my rug

2009-03-18T22:16:00.000-07:00

Today I was leisurely looking at my rug that I am tucking myself in regularly.It suddenly appeared so colorful and beautiful.Then I began to look at it more closely.I was ashamed of myself for not looking at it all these days.
The design work on my rug was so amazing.It has a small flower.The top portion of the flower is seperate from its bottom portion.These flowers are etched in a bigger blooming flower.The bigger flower has another flower overlapping on it.This flower has another set of flowers branching from it.The whole rug was filled with flowers overlaaping,branching and embedded inside one another.
It looked so beautiful!!!.And I didn't notice it.Is it because I am a male???
I got tears in my eyes for the hard work that was put into this design and its making.
Perhaps this is an ordinary work.For me it is the first time.so it left wonders in me.
Next time you hold a colourful mug in your hand,look at its design more observantly.You know why it looked so beautiful.:).

When you have free time

2009-03-01T21:34:00.000-08:00

What do you do when you have free time?

Many of you shrug off by saying I don't have time.But I experienced a different situation.I had so much of work to do that When I had an hour of time for my self,I wasted it by thinking what should I do in this time.I didn't wanted to waste the tme.At the same time,I didn't want to sit before internet and browse whatever I like.I wanted to have the good old way of passing time(Before internet came).I tried and tried and tried to think.Finally I remembered that I used to read a lot of magazines when I didn't know internet and I didn't have T.V before me.So I searched for a magazine(any magazine) .I found one which I had bought to pass time 'incase'.The joy and relaxation I got while I was reading that magazine(print!!) was indescribable.So I strongly decided to only read(no browsing please) whenever I had time.If you had that habit before and lost it,try it,It is relaxing

Cheers

2009-02-25T21:22:00.000-08:00

Why do you feel cheerful?

Because you had a positive experience.

So how do I acheive positive experiences?

By wanting to have positive experiences.

So I get because I want it.

I know this for a long time.But it is very hard to materialze it.I often tend to think negatively and slip very casually into negative thinking.So I came across a tool to lessen the effect of negative thinking.I turned spiritual.No matter what faith you decide to follow.All you need is faith.Faith that is concrete.Faith that gives you hope.Faith that helps you to stay positive.I still don't have that concrete faith.But I am trying...

A poem for my self:

Cheerful!Be cheerful O mind...
Know that happiness is for yours to stay
Say loudly once in a day that "I am happy"..
Cheerful!Be cheerful O mind

One more..

Once I was sitting on a sea shore..
Looking at the white pebbles..
And marvelling at their beauty.
Then I saw an angel inviting me to see the heaven..
There every thing is white,spotless,crystal and effervascent.
I longed for second to own the pure objects..
Behold..every thing turned black in a wink..
I realized my folly and cried and cried till the mind flooded with tears.
Then lo!!Every thing came back to its beauty
Then the angel taught me the lesson..
Don't try to own the beauty that is not yours..
See and enjoy and be content that you have experienced the beauty.

Smile with a big heart

2009-02-20T22:11:00.000-08:00

Come.let us start to smile with big heart leaving aside petty differences.
Come let us have a nice feeling towards one another instead of enlarging our egos.
Come let us dare to put our egos aside and reflect upon how we treated other persons.
Come let us dare to show the loved ones our love for them.
It takes a minute to kill love.
It takes courage to show love.
It takes a smile to bond with love.
All you need is pure love.
Every thing follows...

Counting on blessings

2008-05-17T23:37:00.000-07:00

We have an urgent need for persons who can teach us how to count our blessings.I am the number one culprit who doesnot know how to count on my blessings.I am told that I think negatively.Yes,I think with a negative attitude.I tend to blame every one around me for my plight.If that is the characteristic of a negative mentality,yes,I am a negative thinking moron.The negative in me came out,when I have done a blunder in my life and hesitated about overcoming it.To become negative is easy,but to overcome it and become a positive person again is very difficult.

Inspite of Talking

2008-05-11T00:27:00.000-07:00

How many people talk a lot and do a little?A lot.We would say a 'lot'.By talking aloud whom they are benifitting?To themselves.Many talkative people think that they are making others happy by talking.They donot realize that they are annoying others by their talking which is uncalled for.Talking to another person with the false impression that it will make them feel comfortable is invading the privacy of the other person.

Advice of a good friend

2008-05-03T00:09:00.000-07:00

I always tend to start my article with a question.But now,I will start with a good advice.Never ignore the advice of a good friend.
We all have friends.We do have good friends.We get advices from our friends.We tend to put them aside as a friends good nature,but not the ones that will give us 'our' desired result.The trafedy is our 'desired' result is not necessarily a good result with a common sense.A good friend understands this and gives an advice keeping our welfare in the view.Our respect for our wisdom lies in accepting the friend's advice.Our ego comes in between accepting the advice.But sadly at the same time,we cannot control our ego.Life is a lot less complicated if we can control our ego before our good friends.

Myths about physical beauty

2007-11-03T00:04:00.001-07:00

How many people tend to think they look ugly?Most of such people even believe they are ugly.But when you thought about yourself as ugly,did you ever thought how much importance does people with good physical beauty get in society?Infact most of the people like persons with good attitude than good looks.Good looks invite attraction for the first time.But for people to keep coming to you for second time and third time,they look for a positive attitude,helpful nature and friendly smile.
Skin colour is the major myth surrouding physical beauty.Having fair skin doesnot guarantee fair attitude.Without a fair attitude,a fair skin makes a person feel alone and unhappy.So fair skin doesnot give any happiness and unhappiness makes one look less beautiful.
One of the things that people think is NOT important for physical beauty is skin appearance.Many people leave their skin unattended most of the time.These people spend most of the time doing make-up to their face.But a total contrast between their face and skin looks ugly to those looking for the first timers.
One more area of negligence is foot care.A lot of people flaunt ugly feet without their knowledge.They won't even wash their feet properly during regulat wash times also.It is instantly seen when you just look at their feet.Don't even neglect to wash your feet cleanly.
In essence physical beauty is not all about physical appearance.Inner beauty reflects in your physical beauty too!All the best.

Beauty care for the adults

2007-10-21T21:08:00.000-07:00

A lot of us, the working adults find so little time to take care of our looks. We do follow mechanical methods to keep our looks good. Sadly none of us seem to think about how we can improve our looks. The only thing I found many people actually think about is how ugly they are! So sad!
You can get some insights into this topic based on my own thoughts and attitude towards beauty care.
Starting point for peace of mind was for me when I began to accept my face as mine. I never fell into the impression that I look (to othersJ) more handsome than what really I am. Having the right understanding about how actually we look greatly enhances our confidence in looks. Confidence in out looks adds to our attraction a lot.
A good hygiene is another cause that plays a major factor in attracting others. Bad body odor is a big turn-off for any good intentioned approach. Keep your clothes ironed and have a slight spray of deodorant. Do not forget to bath everyday!
Doing the things you love is the most satisfying activity that gives lasting happiness on an adult’s face. So remember what you used to love to do when you were in college. Start pursuing or resuming those activities. If you feel that the particular passion is out of date, try newer versions of it. I used to love writing. But now I see that I am feeling too boring to write with a pen on a paper. So I chose the modern version. I started blogging. In this way I am doing the thing I like most without losing touch with present reality.
The most important attribute that makes you appealing to others is the hidden factor. It is Self-esteem. Having self-esteem is very important in establishing our identity. Self-esteem gives a positive energy. It plays a vital role in our body-language. The most difficult thing about self-esteem is we do not even realize the fact that we have less self-esteem. To realize and accept the fact that self-esteem is lacking in us helps to correct our attitude and establishing our identity. It takes a lot of reflection and observations to identify our self-esteem quotient.
The first in developing self-esteem is to realize that we need not live to keep others happy. We need to focus our energies on what is essential than always trying to keep others happy.
Remember nothing stands by you always as self-esteem. Develop it.
Looking cheerful is synonymous with looking attractive. Some of us, like me, tend to gravitate towards negative attitude. Negative attitude takes the cheers away from faces. So trying to look cheerful is important to look cheerful eventually. After all, people hesitate to approach a person with frowning looks. Stay confident. Stay cheerful. Stay beautiful.

Home PC Vs Laptop

2007-10-02T02:12:00.000-07:00

Hay!I am not going to pit Home PC against the laptop.Here are some features to consider when you are thinking of whether to buy a Home PC otr laptop like i did!

When I wanted to buy a PC,i suddenly came across a sitiation where I have got a sudden dilemma of whether to buy a Home PC or a laptop.So i left the dilemma of which brand to go for for time-being.

Home PC:

What's Yes?
The most favorable factor is cost.
You have a wide range of choices to choose from.
Option of going for an assembled PC.
Ideal for children.
Children feel easy to operate compared to the laptop.
LCD monitor makes it look attractive.
Colors to choose from.

What's No?
Won't be your companion in journeys.
Size is bigger.
Looks big.

Laptop:

What's Yes?
Your constant travel companion.
Sleek looks.
Moveable in your home according to convenience.

What's No?
Little bit costly yaar.
Children may find it difficult to operate without a mouse.
Hence vulnerable to children dropping it like a ball.
May fall down even while operating.

My Top 5 Electronic gadgets

2007-09-20T03:31:00.000-07:00

I an listing my Top 5 Electronic gadgets that changed the world of youth.

iPhone:
iPhone touch is a revelation.It gave instant Nirvana to whoever loved Entertainment.This is a technological marvel which gave the world what it is waiting for.
People just love the way it is made.The efforts,the hard work and the ingenuity that went behind making this model is an inspiration to innovators.
An Apple product at a time keeps boredom away.

iPod:
First iod shuffle,then iPod nano,then iPod with Video screen.iPodding never stops to be fun.
iPod took music listening to a next generation change.It is a direct jump to next generation as far as listening to music is concerned.
Imagine downloading music to store in your portable audio device.Only Apple can do it.With iTunes,Apple took all of the music to a single store.
The techno-gen needs more than technical features.iPod perfectly fulfills this demand.The sleek looks of iPod made listening to an iPod,a fashion statement.
Apple iPod is handy,stylish and next gen.
iPod is what the youth wants.

Walkman:
Walkman.It is a Sony marvel.Sony is always ahead in audio systems.Sony revolutionized the experience of listening to audio by making it a personal experience with trademarked personal audio system-Walkman.
Others could do only one thing.Follow.Walkman gave the people the personal space they needed badly.It made the people empowered by helping them choose what they want to hlisten than sharing audio with others.
Walkman is a truly and the original personal audio experience.
The greatness of Walkman lies in the fact that it came in an era when people had few personal choices to choose from unlike in the present world.
Walkman-It is truly yours.
(Walkman is the trademark of Sony Corporation).

Camera mobile:
Whoever thought mobile phone can be used only for speach communication felt outdated when they encountered the camera mobile.Camera mobile made mobile phone more than a mobile phone.
It soon outdated the purpose of mobile phone.
Very few products gain popularity with add-on features and camera mobile is the only feature that increased the popularity and craze for mobile phones.It happened never before to any product.
Youth would never have identified themselves with mobile phone had it not been for the camera feature.Who likes plane text SMS and plane jane talk over an electronic good?

USB MP3 player:
No casette.No CD.Just a pen-drive.Listen to the music that you love.That is USB MP3 player for you.The concept is mouth watering.The device is eye-catching.And the music is soul-filling.What else any young man needs?USB MP3 player filled the vacuum that the young gen is experiencing because of loaded burden of having to carry a CD or casette along with their personal stereo.They are so visible!
The sheer storage capacity of USB MP3 player is enough to grab a share of the youth audio market.
Till the advent of iPod,USB MP3 players are the only alternative to quench the music thirst of the youth interms of storage space.
They are new by in their own right.

Technology-2.0

2007-09-07T07:52:00.000-07:00

Technology-1.0

Not so long ago,technology means creating new devices which can perform smart operations with stress on efficiency.Looks were only added as an after thought.This I am terming it as technology-1.0

Technology-2.0

With booming demand for electronic goods,neck-to-neck competetion among consumer electronic companies,companies started thinking out-of-box to gain the market share.This started a slew of beautiful models with stunning looks and add on features.
iPhone is the latest in technology 2.0.We are no more worried about what is the IC used in iPhone and power consumption.These adavantages are taken for granted.What Nokia calls as human technology(no sharp corners please!)is a classic example to how to appeal to users.May this colourful tribe of consumer electronic goods may grow!

iPhone - Beauty in technology

2007-08-25T03:13:00.000-07:00

The first thought that came to my mind when i saw the iPhone is 'What a beauty!!!'.The looks,the feel and the touch are stunning.Harry potter may have come at the same time and swept the world.But this beauty in technology competed with the beauty in the prose and successfully emerged as a winner.Who will beat Apple when it comes to the beauty of a technological product?I doubt any one would in near future.
Nokia is thinking of competing with iTunes.But i hardly believe that will shake Apple.
I had few doubts regarding an iPhone.What is this exactly?Is this just iPod+Phone?But it beat all the odds by its touch technology.
Now I Mac, I Pod and I phone.What will i be doing next?I view??Hopefully yes!

Emotional block

2007-07-27T23:22:00.000-07:00

I have heard about a writer's block.I heard about mental block.But i have experienced emotional block.It is the same as that of other blocks,where you fail to respond to your emotional needs.You have a become a stigma to yourself.You can no longer fulfill either emotional needs.You fail to respond emotionally as your circle of friends and family got used to seeing you.You struggle to do some of the most easiest loking things earlier as too complicated to finish.I didnot get any proven scientific solution to this block.I shall let you know when i find one.Alvida

How to accommodate yourself in transition situations?

2007-06-24T05:59:00.000-07:00

Changing jobs at a later stage than the younger gen subjects you to excrutiating transition situations which people handle in different ways.
Here i will explain the way i adopted which seems like least resistant way,but actually it is the way of applying most resistance.
Rule number one: Be patient until you know the complete picture.Don't jump into the band without knowing likely resultant situations which may fetch as far as a great shockers.Generally people try to play cards too soon thinking they might help them to get a seat among the new system.What happens is they end up with a poor negative image which lasts as long as they last in the organization.

Rule number two: Get to know the attitude of the organization.Yes,every organization has an attitude just as every human being.It sums up the attitude of its chairman and stays there without being noticed.It shows the way the organization is being run and also how it had been run.If you understand and accept the attitude of the organization,then you have the holy grail with you.

What happens after you have shared a most kept secret to someone whom you thought you can trust(After all the books say soi)

2007-06-17T04:07:00.000-07:00

I will begin with the point that the most traumatic moments of my life occurred after i have shared a most memorable to be best kept secret with someone whom every body says you can trust.Why it happenned i have no idea nor the clue.

The story:
I always believed my parents cannot bring me a good wife.So i was always looking out for a girl who would suit me.In my Engineering,i spotted a girl whom i thought would be ideal for me.But how can i show it to her?this was my biggest question.I was doing all sorts of plannings except talking with her.Unfortunately that is a what a woman wants.She wants you to talk with her if you are genuinely interested in her.Unfortunately she considers any one who talks to her as genuinely intersetd in her.So i made my self look like 'he is not interested in girls' although this is ridiculously farther from truth.
After all why any young man want to keep himself away from girls?I guess the girls in my class are not intelligent enough to understand this basic psychlogical fact.
So coming to the roots of my problem,in my third year of engineering i began to suspect that that girl(now a mother of two) was hopelessly desperate for me to talk to her or any girl.I never could know the truth since it was only my gut feeling.
So it began to tear my heart that that girls was desperate for me.So since i too was loving her(atleast i thought so at that time!!!),i decided to confirm her love for me.I chose a bad day and a bad time(for me) to confirm the same.Since i as very very inarticulate in girl matters,i called her aside saying i wanted to talk to her.I was astounded by the authority in my tone that sounded when i called her aside.I guess she was too stunned)or elated1) to be called like that and 'obeyed' my order.The i posed her only one question,nay i ordered her to answer only one question.'If you don't liek me then you have to say that 'i don't like you'.Now tell me why and how any girl will feel positive with this ludicrously stupid 'propasal'?So too she.She gave me a lecture about this too young ness of our life and gave a dipolamatic advice to study hard and reach greater heights in life.
After that i became obsessed with my guilt feelings and obssessed my self with correcting my mistake.In that madness to correct my mistake, i became mentally obssessed and physically weak.Then in my last act of sanity i telegrammed my parents to come and visit me.They came,they saw and they hugged.
Then my mothetr knowing too well for my brave nature and sane thinking repatedly asked my what is that 'serious' thing that made me such a mentally inept person.She figured out correctly that ordinary things don't bother me at all or i will not at all be bothered by ordinary things.Then she cajoloed me and asked me if i had fight withy any one?Then amazed by my mother's insight into the guessing the close reason,i blurted out the truth but only half of it.I said i had a fight with a girl in my class.I thought saying waht i actually i said makes me weakling in my mother's mind.After all till then i was mentally the stronges person in my family.I didn't wanted to lose my status.
But fate was waiting to thrust all its horrendous moments on me.Immediately after my dosclosure,i realized that i had done my second blonder.Again,i poured out my mind to a woman!!!Saying my mind to a woman 'once' made my the weakest in my class.Now saying 'again' to another woman would make me weak in my family!!!.So i pleaded her to forget waht i had said.But how can it be possible.She was defiant and feeling indignant that her strong son became weakened for some faceless woman(atleast as far as she is concerned).I could see the indinity in her face that too because of me!.So that fateful moments made me weak mentally forever.
I became the most failed guy in our entire circle of relatives and friends so much so that now i could not even claim,it is my circle.It was my circle,not any more.I am ostracized for my inability to excel inspite of the best opputunity i have got.I
lived among the most medicre men whom i hated all my life till then.I became the most ridiculed and dominated man wherever i went after that.I tried to resurrect my ever hurting self-esteem and pride.The more i tried the more i got hurt.In my own house i became the ever hating son and not a big brother any more to my brash younger brother.
I became a second class family member in my own house.
I bccame an instant failure in relationships.
So this is what i got for speaking my mind to women.I am trying hard to contain my self from opening upto any woman.

Search for a suitable girl

2007-05-20T05:29:00.000-07:00

How many aged bachelors by Indian standards could have got his dream girl?Either the girl's parents might feel shy to marry her to a relatively old man or he might have to settle for some one who carried 4/10 of his dream girl's criteria.He is looked upon with scorn and little bit of doubt by his normal friends and his once loving relatives.He becomes a bit of ridiculed person in the eyes of his relatives.They might even start linking him to a disease or a bad habit which they cannot mention too openly.Neverthless they think it is true and feel happy inside their minds about their prized finding.
They never care to bother about the loneliness he is suffering or scorn he is feeling for himself.They might never even been thinking that he too is feeling the burden of life.He is living with too much emotional burden and emotional burden is the hardest one to bear than the burden of a carrying a family.
He is not resposnible for getting his marriage delayed?He might have waited or waiting for pursuing his most cherished goal and in his youth,marriage was not his top priority!Once you have achied your goal and then start looking for a mate,you might have realized that you are too late for the party.
Hope someone drills wisdom into the minds of these damned relatives :)

What is this thing called time ?

2007-05-05T23:21:00.000-07:00

What is time ? Is this thing just only a measurement of one of the dimensions in universe? Is this related to fate anyway?What is having a good time?What is being in bad times? I think having a good time means having a time well spent.It is a time we remember,cherish very dearly.I think having a bad time is time not well-spent.Infact it is time ill-spent.It is demenous in that it not only made us feel ill and miserable but also recurs with effort-less ease whenever we remember it.The most ill part of a bad time is it can even make our good times into bad ones,if it persists or being remembered for too long.It is not so with good times.So what is that that can change even a bad time into a good,cherishable time?It is love.It is love that understands every thing and can give us reason behind every bad time and makes us feel better about ourselves about our bad times.After all it is not 'that' too bad!That is the feeling that makes us feel redeemed.If we can get it,we are lucky.If we don't,then we are just like any one.
I wish i can write more.But this little piece seems too lovely for me to spoil with more work.

The challenge of having multiple talents

2007-04-28T06:15:00.000-07:00

When i was in school,i was spending a great deal of time to decide what to accomplish in life rather than worrying about whether i can do it or not.I was feeling the effect of too many special gifts that i was unsure which talent to be nourished most,since i have only one life for me.Sure a cat has nine lives,but a man has only one physical life.though he can have as many number as hell of emotional lives.
I got a great spiritual idea that i can 'gift' some of my special gifts to many unpriviliged people who are complaining day in and day out that they or their children are not gifted as me.I was unsure how to relieve them from their complaints.It is only very lately in life that i realized that complaining is a natural trait of every normal man and also that when a special man starts to complain,he ceases to be that special any more,that too in his very own eyes.That is a biggest punishment GOD can inflict upon such a special person for not satisfying with his special gifts.
So coming to my case i chose engineering as my would be priority as this field has less temptations in it and doesnt allow you to deviate from your moral life as other fields does.It is more clutter-free from other fields and it is as plain that if you know the work,you can do it without having to worrying about all other 'political' and 'social' implications.So when i joined engineering i lost all the intense interest in my other talents that when i saw competeions being conducted in any cultural event,i saw myself above them all because i have already seen them,conquered them and got recognitions in my life.So engineering is a true calling for me.I realised it without any social or peer pressures except the ones that i have analysed myself without experiencing them actually.

Midas touch

2007-04-28T05:53:00.000-07:00

If ever you have seen a man with a midas touch,surely you think he must be a lucky guy.But did you ever thought whether the man is lucky for himself?What if every group he was involved reaped a great success,except he himself.Well,it is that unlucky situation for a man where his team always wins,but he personally loses so much that no one even would care to observed that he lost something,simply because they are celebrating their victory and his loss seems like a miniscule for them.
I am not sure why God or for that matter fate desides to design such a 'different' person.Sure he is seen as different,but he must be feeling as different as a hell,and no one even cares,because he is anyway 'different'.For such a different person every thing he gets is different and only a person with 'forced' patience can accept all the 'different' companions that fate bestows (or forces) unto him.
I would say that it is a human tragedy that such 'different' persons are born in the first place or such a different kind of genes exist in the very very first place.
I am sure many of the people who committed suicide are such different persons and those whom you see as different persons are carrying a great deal of emotional burden with them and no one else to share his burden,because his burdenfor them is a gift of GOD.To hell with GOD's gifts.I want a normal person with achieving success 'only' with their hardwork,with no special gifts at all whatsoever they may be.Only then,i feel a normal person truly feels the taste of victory.Otherwise it is yet another milestone for him,rather than a special sweet victory.How sad it is not ot be able to celebrate your success and mostly because it is seen as natural than any thing remarkable!
I would say that such a specially gifted persons should rather spend their lives anonymously than being 'living' with normal healthy people.But it is in the first place not practicable and in the second place it is not seen as 'decorum' in this world full of 'but its so natural!' kind of people.
That is why i chose writing,rather than blogging.Now do you think i am different.May be i am mad also!The choice is strictly personal rather than common.:)

Reclaim your life

2007-03-27T15:22:00.000-07:00

I liked this particular advertisement for the TATA vehicle 'Dicor'.It struck a chord with my longing to reclaim my happiness that was lost because my excessive care to protect my private life even from my friends' view and left me helplessly vulnerable to 'everyone' leave alone my'friends'.
I was afraid of being misunderstood and left not being understood at all.
I ws afraid of my actions being misinterpreted and left not at all being interpreted.
I was afraid of dominating my good friends and left being dominated by everyone.
So this unneeded fear left a glaring hole in my personal life which is becoming difficult to fill it up.
As authors of the book 'Men are from Mars and Woman are from Venus' explains 'not being needed' is one of the worst conditions for a man and i have been in that condition for too many years that i started blogging!
I am an example of my local saying 'lobhiki kharchekkuva'(He who doesnot want to spend at all will have to spend more finally).
So now i come to the question that has been nagging me for so long.
'how to reclaim your life'?

First flight abroad

2007-03-10T06:29:00.000-08:00

I have made my first flight abroad on 7th of March,2007. the trip was something that needs to be recorded,since it is significant for any Indian to have to travel to abroad for the first time.
My destination was U.S.A.It was a business trip on behalf of my employer.
The route was Bangalore-London-Newark-Rochester.
The uneducated in me came out in the reading of itenary itself when i mistaken the timings mentioned on the tickets to be all for Indian timings where as infact they correspond to the locat ion you will be in at that time.So it is a good point to learn for any one like me.
So i mistaken the 12.45 p.m. london time of destination to 12.45 Indian time and kept on wondering all through my first flight abroad as to whether travel time to London is so much less!!!!!
The Airlines was British Airways.The inflight crew made us to feel as comfortable as possible.
The food they served is Indian for vegetarians.
The wines were served,but i didnot take any,since i was scared as how i would to talk to immigration officials if i drink.The reason is i never drank except on two 'safe' occasions and i had no idea about various types of alcohloic drinks.I still don't belive a wine is just grape juice as my friends try to convince me sincerely.
As the trend is , i tried to get familiar with the guy next seat and he happened to be working in the same company in the same division and in the adjacent building to mine in my company!!!.It was no wonder at all.Infact my thought was here too!!!And i learnt from him that there are few more guys travelling in the same flight from my company.So it was kind of homogeneous trip.
Just as in Indian train journeys,babies were crying and their mothers and fathers were carrying them on their shoulders walking to and fro in the flight.So it made me feel some times,i am safe among my indians aboard a British Airways flight
The other gentle man in my row was having a tough exterior,but when he smiled at the baggage check-in at Heathrew,it was a warm and friendliest smile i have ever seen.
At heathrew,there was two hours gap to my next flight to Newark.If i saw Heathrew a decade back,i would have gone wild with excitement.But since that kind of shopping malls are fairly familiar site in India thanks to liberalization,i did not feel particularly excited,except after seeing a Harrods store.I read a lot many times about the famous Harrods chain of departmental stores.
There while i was waiting at the gate to my next flight,i could not believe my eyes when i saw typically rustic kind of Indian couple with very Indian village dressing coming with passports ,tickets and very small bag.It was too good to see Indians travelling that way without any hypocritical dress.
The gentleman sat by my side and i learnt that they were from Orissa and thay have travelled before as well.He was too cool belying his Indian village attire.
I saw the American living the moment i entered my BA flight to Newark.Suddenly the atmosphere was gay compared to silent and serious atmosphere from Bangalore to Heathrew.
People were laughing loudly and with a gayness that made me to understand how friendly company they are.There was a group of students enjoying a lot on the plane playing cards and making fun of each other and laughing a lot.I liked it to the hilt.
Here again a typical Indian experience.There was one gentleman sitting by my side and recognising that i am an Indian,he politely requested me to exchnage a seat since his wife got seated some where. I politely agreed,that is the liberty you have when you are a bachelor and travelling with Indians in bus,train or even flight.
He thanked me a lot and i sat in my new seat.and guess the person next to me is Indian.She was travelling to meet her husband.
The Amrican gentleman next to me helped without any pretensions to keep my hand baggae when all the overhead lockers were full.He joked a lot and laughed a lot.Infact he was laughing exchanging his feelings all through the journey.I felt at home.
I slept,watched movie,T.V ,listened music and talked to the lady sitting by side.
The next step after landing at Newark was immigration interview.He asked me a few questions and stamped my passport and told 'Take care pal!!'.How it can be!So friendly!!
Frankly i dont know how i came to the boarding gate at Newark.I was made to feel more than welcome by the airport staff.They guided me at every point to make me reach my boarding gate.
The flight to Rochester was delayed by half-an-hour.The journey was typically domestic with people discussing every thing from business to their family.
Finally i landed at Rocheter at 12'0 clock in the midnight.You say freedom at midnight!!!I would say landing at the land of freedom at midnight.

Philosophy

2007-02-02T21:20:00.000-08:00

I was always thinking what is this philosophy that so many preach and lot many follow.

I always had a basic doubt about philosophy.Can and does philosophy and absolute laziness,other than death go hand in hand?

I happened to spot a book by Bertrand Russel on philosophy.That gave me an insight into what is philosophy and how philosophers think.
The first thing that I noticed about philosophers is they want to think originally.They don't follow what others preach.It is this originality in thought that makes their teachings so powerful.
The second thing is they question your basic beliefs and assuptions.They demand a reason behind your beliefs and actions.I understand this is the reason they have been persecuted over centuries.Because they hit right upon your ego and beliefs which ordinary man can not bear.

It is good to share my analysis of philosophers in my blog.

Working with very younger colleagues

2007-01-27T01:04:00.000-08:00

I happened to enter my new profession at a very late age,where i have to work with very young colleagues who happened to enter just freshly into the profession or who completed just two to three years in that particular profession.And i tell you with a bleeding heart,the hazards are many, and my hazards have doubled when i have to live among similar age people where they see me as 'very old guy' though i am all the 33 year to my age credit.

First of all i deal with the hazards at professional life.There you are too old age-wise and too small experience wise.So you are not right for ANY one!!!!and that is a nightmare for any decent guy.I tried to establish my credibility in many ways.Initially i tried to build good rapport with my colleagues.But it ended in a disaster as the communication ways are just too different and i came to the verge of loosing my job or resigning it.The second approach is perhaps the better one.I tried to concentrtae only on work and nothing else.It became more hazardous.Because when you concentrate on 'ONLY' work,you happened to 'have to communicate' more both your colleagues and younger or similar age superiors.and i ended up totally as a failure when communicating with my superiors as i drifted towards them as a friend to fill the gaps in personal rapport and they felt it seriously objectionable.This horrified experience is still on and i am trying to overcome this by doing some sort of homework before communicating.But i know fully well that this 'homework' preparations wont help always though sometimes you can escape because of your previous experience.
Any one faceing similar conditions are welcome to share their grief,failure or success.

Coming to 'living with younger people'it is fairly and comparatively easy since you can prevent others form poaching your personal arena and i am having moderate suces in it,though sometimes i am unable to 'escape' their 'stupidity'.

Beautiful show-piece

2007-01-14T03:46:00.000-08:00

I thought a lot.I have read a lot.Now it is time for to write something.A Broken show-piece : Anitha is moving in panic and with respect,in the wide allays of the art-exhibition.It is her first experience to come to an art-exhibition.It was her long-cherished goal to appreciate art first-hand.She always appreciated art distantly and silently. "Excuse me!",she heard a friendly voice.She turned back to see that unknown person.A middle-aged lady was smiling at her.Anitha thought 'She is a rich lady.I must be careful to talk to her'.Anitha smiled with an effortless ease which surprised even her.'Yes!',replied. "Can you please explain me these paintings.I never could understand these arts!",the unknown lady smiled.Though Anitha saw a mischief in her eyes,she neglected that mischief,and jumped with joy that she 'finally' could get a chance to show her understanding of the art with someone who is really interested in the art. For the next few hours,she explained with a vigour and enthusiasm about all she could understand about those paintings.When she finally completed,she was gasping with a joy,that was exhilerating ,which is visible in her eyes.The 'rich lady' was nodding with an appreciative smile.
'Hi!IamAnnieD'Souza',the lady shook her hand warmly and strongly.Anitha smiled and gently replied,'Hi!I am Anitha'.
'If you don't mind,can i have a visit to your sweet home sometime?',Mrs.D'Souza queried politely.
'Ya! sure',Anitha fumbled with happiness.Mrs.D'Souza replied "Thank you beti!".Anitha was overwhelmed by her affection and gave a loving and polite smile and said 'bye' and returned to observing paintings.This time her heart filled with full of love while observing and admiring the good art-pieces.
She came to her home.She thought of the 'happy happening' at the art exhibition and thought to herself,'Chalo!This must be a pretty good coincidence!Nothing more than that.Don't fly too much with happiness' and resumed her regular house chores.
On a beautiful monday morning,she woke up as usual.She felt a tinge of happiness in that wakeup mood.She prepared breakfast for her husband,Ajay and sent him to office with a loving kiss.
She sat down in the sofa to read her favourite novel 'David Copperfield' one more time.
Surprisingly the door-bell rang in its beautiful cuckoo tone.Anitha impatiently kept the book aside and rose to look up the surprising visitor.She has no friends or relatives who come to visit her,that too,at this time of the day.
She impatiently peeped through the grills of the window to see the unknown visitor.Mrs.D'Souza, standing with a smiling face,a flower bouque in one hand and a gift-like thing in the other hand, waved at her with her busy hands.
Anitha could not belive her eyes.It was a scenary to behold in her eyes.A wealthy woman coming to her home with a flower bouque and gift (though they may not be meant for her!) and still more keeping the genuine smile in tact,waiting for her to open the door.
She opened the door and impulsively hugged Mrs.D'Souza,though she had never done that before with any one else.Her greeting and warmth was as if seeing a long lost friend for whom she had been waiting for a life time.
"If you please excuse me,may i please enter your sweet home or shall i ahve to stand outside waiting forever to you welcoming to your sweet home?Mrs.D'Souza chided with her umdiminishing smile.
Nishnath is playing cricket alone in the house.Anitha is preparing coffee for herself on the kitchen.
Suddenly she heard a crackling sound of a glass object getting broken down.Anitha's heart-beat stopped the moment she heard the breaking sound of glass.She remembered that she forgot to close the glass door of the almarah where she was kept the show-pice gifted by Mrs.D'Souza.'What happened?',she came out of kitchen into the hall with a syncing heart and her worst fears came true .With a trembling hand and weeping heart,she looked at the broken glass pieces of the show-piece scattered all around the hall,and Nishnath standing at one corner with petrified eyes.
She stood there,looking at the broken show-piece,distraught and to her son, with mother's love.
She went to her son,put her hands over her head and caressed his beaautiful black hair,weeping with tears rolling byher beatiful otherwise serene eyes.
She carefully collected all the glass pieces scattered all around in the hall.She emptied a flower-vase and dutifully filled all the pieces in itand put the flowers back into the flower-vase.She did all this without feeling emotional.It is as if paying tribute to herself for neglecting to care about a cherished article.
She tried to thonk about Mrs.D'souza.But she was unable to do it.It was as if a link was broken wth a friend who was close to her heart,but no more now.
She felt the friendship beyond her capacity.'Yes!It is very difficult to keep up friendship with rich people',she told to herself amusingly.
'Better to forget about that sweet heart and concentrate on my life.After all ife wll not stop for a friend',a philosophical smile appeared on her face,which people would see as a wry smile.
For the first time,she tried to cry.Ironically,crying was out of her grasping power.'That's life',she amused.
She decided to forget about this horrible experience and put the amtter at rest under that beautiful flowervase and let life flow in its own rhythm.
Days passed by.No call from Mrs.D'souza and it is neither the nature of Anitha too to call up friends for small talk.Whenever she felt she was forgetting her friend,she went to the flowervase,stood nearby,gazed at t as if she is meditating about a lost friend and time passed by.
Anitha s reading a book.The phone rang.She lifted.
'Hi!I am standing outsde your home',a cheerful voice greeted her.It didnot take anytime for Anitha to recognize Mrs'D'Souza's voice.
Anitha was flabbergasted.She stared blankly at the door and thought to herself,'What should i answer her if she asks about the gift?I cannot afford to lower my self esteem by saying i have hidden it.',she sighed and while the door bell rang again,she resigned her friendship to the God and opened the door wth a smile on her otherwise sad face.
'Oh!Dear!What important work you have here is to make me wait outside for so long?',Mrs D'Souza joked in her usual cheerful fashion.
'Nothing of that sort Mrs.D'Souza.I am sorry.Please come in'.Anitha invited her in.
'And now for a cup of coffee'Mrs.D'Souza settled in the sofa comfortably.
'Sure!I will fetch it in a minute',Anitha went inside the kitchen.
She didn't want to wander her thoughts into worrness while she was preparing the coffee.
She brought the coffee cups in a tray and came into the hall.
She brought the coffee and her hands trembled while she was giving the coffee mug to Mrs.D'souza.Mrs.D'Souza took the cup with a warm smile and affectionate looks.
Anitha too took the coffee,and began to sip the most affectionate drnk of her life with all the bitterness to herself.
'Why!You are looking angry?Angry with this old friend?.Mrs.D'Souza joked.
'No,Mrs.D'Souza.Never say it again',Anitha tried to control her bitterness and urge to cry.
'Hey!Where is my show-piece my dear friend',Mrs.D'Souza amost cried with mischievious wonder.
'Mrs.D'Souza!I am sorry',Anitha began to weep.'I am feelng sorry to not to take care about a wonderful gift of a friend like you.It got broken while my son was playing in the hall.I am sorry.I even kept all the broken pieces safely in my almarah.I was showing your gift proudly to my friends.Now i do not have it',Anitha kept talking with her eyes closed,tears rolling down her closed eyes.
Anitha used all her power to not to breakdown fooloshly before that gentle woman.
'That's it!!!Infact the broken show-piece cemented our friendship',Mrs.D'Souza patted on Anitha's shoulder laughing loudly.
Anitha too laughed with all the relief in her heart.Anitha joined the hearty laugh with all the love for her 'new' friend.